We generally do not recognize that the perception of others as our enemies comes from our own attitude of hostility and from our own willingness to nurse grudges over often minor incidents. When we choose to obsess continually over past harms done to us—incidents that in many cases lasted a fraction of the time we later spend fuming over them—we ourselves are voluntarily turning our kind father and mother sentient beings into our enemies. Instead, we can determine as spiritual practitioners to respond to others’ harm with even greater compassion for them.
~ The 17th Karmapa, Ogyen Trinley Dorje
Day Three of Autumn Teachings: Looking in the Mind’s Mirror / September 17, 2010